This is a pretty serious blog. You may wish to ignore it. In fact, some may get offended. I am sorry if you do, but this needs to be said.
I don’t watch the View. Not really a show that interests me. But this morning, I read an article and watched the clip showing Whoopi Goldberg saying, “it wasn’t rape-rape” in defense of Roman Polanski.
For those that don’t know, 30 some odd years ago, Roman Polanski was charged with unlawful sexual intercourse with a minor. He fled the US and is now facing extradition to serve his time.
He has admitted to giving the 13 year old drugs and champagne prior to the event. Since fleeing the country, he has spent his time continuing to make movies from countries with the appropriate extradition protection laws.
This angers me to my very core. This behaviour, both by these predators, and by their supporters, must stop.
In Canada, it is estimated only 6% of sexual assaults is REPORTED. False accusations occur the same amount of every other crime – about 2-4%. Which means 96% of these cases reported are actual crimes.
Why is this stuff not reported? Why would a victim put herself out there? Who would believe her? Who would do something about it?
Many of us spend our time helping our fellow man. Whether we give to the local food bank or sponsor a child in Africa. We recycle, we use energy saving devises, we donate to Cancer research.
We don’t teach our daughters and sons to speak out. Sexual abuse is such a taboo subject. It is kept secret, it is hidden. No one wants to be associated it with it.
According to Wikipedia, “Most sexual abuse offenders are acquainted with their victims; approximately 30% are relatives of the child, most often brothers, fathers, uncles or cousins; around 60% are other acquaintances such as friends of the family, babysitters, or neighbors; strangers are the offenders in approximately 10% of child sexual abuse cases.”
No child wants to get someone in trouble. How many of these children even know that what is going on is wrong? How many of these children have lived with this abuse, as a regular day to day event? How many of these children, have this special secret that they don’t even know they must share?
How do victims behave as adults? Many have psychological issues – eating disorders, addictive personalities, depression. Victims have a high chance of being offenders themselves.
This has to stop. There is no “rape-rape” vs “just rape” argument here. We need to bring sexual abuse to light, in all its forms.
Please start in your own homes. Have discussions with your children. This is not just for the girls. Every child can be a victim. If we can make our children understand it is alright to talk about it, it is alright to tattle on someone. Make them aware of predators – in their schools, online, in the family. Please make yourself available as often as possible. And if your discussion causes some things you would rather keep hidden, please, DON’T. Act on it. We need to stop this in its tracks. And the only way to do so is to turn the light on.